Entrepreneur Steve Sims writes in his book Bluefishing
that a real friend is someone you don’t have to put on an act for—you can be yourself.
What does this look like in practice?
For Sims, these are the people “whose doors I could knock on, at one o’clock in the morning and go, ‘I’m fucked,’ and they would go, ‘Get a seat. Let’s chat.’”
People who Sims can call and say, “I’m on the other side of the planet, but I just lost my wallet. I need to borrow your credit card. What are the numbers?”
They’re the people you never have to give excuses to.
“You don’t have to be anyone else for them. Just you.”
So, how many real friends does Sims have?
As he puts it: “This is going to sound harsh, and it might upset a lot of people I know, but the simple fact is that in my life, outside of my wife, I think I’ve got three fiends.”
How many do you have? And how many do you need?