Entrepreneur Emil Anton writes on his blog
that if you think of yourself as a plant, then your current reality is your “soil.”
“The same seed can grow faster in some environments and starve in others.”
But unlike the seed of a plant, you have the power to control your environment.
Your job is to figure out what kind of environment works best for you.
An influential aspect of your environment is the group of people you spend time with.
As Anton puts it: “You want to be better? Find people that make you better!”
Find people who challenge and support you.
You want to find people you enjoy being around—”not because they’re below you and their insufficiency makes you feel ahead.”
Putting aside ethical issues, they’re not the ones you’re in a race against anyway.
You’re actually in a race “trying to catch up to your potential self.”
For Anton, two things happen when you realize what kind of people you vibe with:
First, when you get together with people in your circle, your value expands exponentially. Collectively, you can share ideas, connections, goals, and strategies that no single person could have come up with on their own. “The circle has more value than the sum of its parts.
Second, once you realize what kind of people you vibe with, it’s easier to avoid people who are toxic to your growth. Now you know who to avoid. In the same way that you remove weeds next to a plant to give it the best chance of growth.